Why Goals Fail

In Podcast, Your Values by Sonja

Every new moon, I take a little time to set intentions for the month. I like to base it on the star sign that the Moon is in, mostly because it’s fun – I also feel there is a synchronicity between astrology signs and the time of the year. A few days ago I was giving an online group session around setting intentions, and an excellent question came up, Why intentions and not goals. I want to offer a challenge. In this world where goals are idealized. Don’t set any. Don’t set any this month, don’t set any for the …

Eliminating Perfectionism

In Podcast by Sonja

I love listening to the intro music as a way to warm up for these podcasts. So I’m sitting here with my headphones on, snapping along, thinking wow, my snaps sound great! And then I realize … I can’t hear my snaps at all, that’s the music. Womp woomp! Today I want to talk to you about a topic that’s near and dear to my heart: perfectionism.   It wasn’t until very recently that the idea was even floated that maybe “perfect” as a goal was not helpful, and more recently had the realization that shook my understanding of perfectionism to …

Podcast Introduction

In Podcast by Sonja

Hello hello! Welcome to the wizard files, I’m so glad to have you here with me as we start out on this new adventure. My name is Sonja, you can find me online at sonjathegrey on Instagram and Twitter, and my website is sonjathegrey.com.  I’m going to keep it short and sweet here in today’s episode, as I introduce what this podcast is – who it’s for, who I am, what I do, and what you can expect.  So. Who is this for. This is a podcast for the seekers. And, I’m going to tell you what I mean by that.  …

The Universe Has a Message for You

In Intuition by Sonja

We’re talking signs here. (That’s the “oh, the Universe is talking to me” kind, not the “did I just miss my exit?” kind.) You may tend to think about signs in one of two ways – that if you ever get to see one, it’ll show up as a lightning strike, or, that there’s no such thing. As with so many things, it’s often somewhere in between.  Many signs start as tiny little nudges. Can they get bigger? Yeah absolutely. But if you had a a choice, wouldn’t you prefer to recognize the little signs – the right kind of flower …

A Different World

In Confidence and Courage by Sonja

I recently attended the World Domination Summit in Portland, Oregon. (Weird name, right? And no, it’s not like that.)  Often defying description, WDS was recently described by a friend of mine, Jeff Harry, when he said: “The best way to describe WDS is that it is a play conference where people are giving each other permission to live a much bigger, more powerful, adventurous life. It challenges the notion of the standard 9 to 5, as well as believing that life is a mundane experience that you just need to tolerate.” Every year, the content is captivating. In addition to mainstage …

It’s Not Worth Your Life

In Uncategorized by Sonja

My friend’s tears weren’t too unusual on this topic. “It’s awful,” she said, as I listened to her heart sink to the floor. “My manager is always hounding me about deadlines I’m missing because I have too much work to do. My coworker is a jerk, but I have no one to tell when we don’t have HR, besides my manager says it’s my fault. It’s so frustrating, I hate it there.” After a bit, I said, “Wow, that’s all so hard. Are you going to look for a new job?” She blinked at me. “Oh, no I couldn’t. I’ve …

Messy Rules. They’re Awesome.

In Creative Thinking, Limiting Beliefs, Workspace Matters by Sonja

On my way in to the library the other day, I wondered what their food rules are, and whether I needed to smuggle in my water bottle. So I went looking for a sign with rules. [At the local library, you can’t throw your stuff everywhere, get naked, or pop popcorn. This must be why children under 10 need to be supervised.] And there it was: “Do not: Consume food or drink that creates a nuisance.” Now this might seem like no big deal, sandwiched between typical “don’t smoke” and “don’t expose yourself” rules. But it caught me dead in …

Victory Over The Library Door

In Mindfulness, Flow, and Focus, What Is Success by Sonja

A few weeks ago, I had plans to have lunch with the kiddo at school. She’d been talking about it for days, so there’s a good chance she was excited about it. The original plan was to go to the library that’s near her school, do some work until noon, and then head over to the land of juice pouches and apple slices. I even remembered to bring tea for the morning so I’d have some thing to drink at the library. I strutted up to the library door, so proud of myself for being up early and having my …

What Traffic Means For Your Career

In Confidence and Courage by Sonja

Let me tell you what I think about when I sit in traffic and how it really impacts your job. (It’s probably not what you think.) [Photo by Clément M. on Unsplash] Many years ago, I flirted with the idea of becoming a professional photographer. “It’s an uphill battle,” they’d say, “the photographer’s market is saturated with everybody and their cell phones.” I started finding clients. It wasn’t long after the first few “I want our hands held together like a heart like they do on Pinterest, okay?” that I knew portraits weren’t really something I wanted to pursue. At …