You Get What You Look For

In What Is Success, Your Values by SonjaLeave a Comment

We crave opportunity, the out-of-the-blue offer that sends you skipping down the yellow brick road to la la land. But often while we’re waiting, we feel lost. Overwhelmed by the expectations of others, we bury our values in the sand while we stress out over what our co-workers think, what that guy in the car on the freeway thinks, or what the neighbor might think of the lawn. So we are cautious with co-workers, make sure not to pick our noses in the car, and mow the lawn every week, all the while grumbling about the demands of everyday life. …

No Good, No Bad

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There’s an argument I keep having in my head. Lately, my daughter has been struggling with understanding the behavior of others at school. She’ll say this kid or that kid is “good” or “bad.” I immediately leap in with this: there are no “bad people,” only “bad decisions.”  People should be held accountable for their “bad decisions,” but their “bad decisions” Do Not Make Them Bad People. I tell her this because I want her to know that mistakes are fine. Learn from them and try to do better next time. You might fuck up 15 times. Or 150 times. …

Fear Is a Great Teacher (If You Don’t Freak Out)

In Confidence and Courage by SonjaLeave a Comment

One Thought Can Make (or Break) Your Day You wake up feeling rested and refreshed (…okay, fine, feeling somewhat rested, and mostly refreshed), you’re ready to tackle the day, but then you remember something that kicks you in the feels. Maybe it’s a presentation you have to make that afternoon. Maybe you remember a fight you had with a loved one the day before. Maybe it’s some bad health news. That’s all it takes, your morning has just gone to shit. You grumble at the empty cereal box. You swear at your roommates when you see there’s no toilet paper. …