Your Passion Is Not Your Job Title

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It’s an idea that has been imprinted on you since you were a child.  “What do you want to be when you grow up?”  How often do you think you heard that question? More than once? More than once a year? More?  From the time you were able to form complex sentences, people have been asking you what you want to be.  As though you aren’t “being” sufficiently already.  As though you are supposed to transform into something new when you become an adult.  And they would ask you as though you must certainly have an answer. It was rare …

Ways to Work With Me in 2020

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Here’s what’s coming in 2020! I’m looking forward to helping you bring more magic and happiness into your work and life. Interested in the services below? Contact me to discuss options. If you know someone who could use one of these services, I’d love for you to share this page with them.  Your Hero Map How amazing would it feel to move from feeling deeply lost in the muck, to feeling not only hopeful, but downright inspired about your path forward?  Spend a magical, virtual day with me, as we look deep into the toughest issues you’re facing and move …

Why Goals Fail

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Every new moon, I take a little time to set intentions for the month. I like to base it on the star sign that the Moon is in, mostly because it’s fun – I also feel there is a synchronicity between astrology signs and the time of the year. A few days ago I was giving an online group session around setting intentions, and an excellent question came up, Why intentions and not goals. I want to offer a challenge. In this world where goals are idealized. Don’t set any. Don’t set any this month, don’t set any for the …

You Get What You Look For

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We crave opportunity, the out-of-the-blue offer that sends you skipping down the yellow brick road to la la land. But often while we’re waiting, we feel lost. Overwhelmed by the expectations of others, we bury our values in the sand while we stress out over what our co-workers think, what that guy in the car on the freeway thinks, or what the neighbor might think of the lawn. So we are cautious with co-workers, make sure not to pick our noses in the car, and mow the lawn every week, all the while grumbling about the demands of everyday life. …

No Good, No Bad

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There’s an argument I keep having in my head. Lately, my daughter has been struggling with understanding the behavior of others at school. She’ll say this kid or that kid is “good” or “bad.” I immediately leap in with this: there are no “bad people,” only “bad decisions.”  People should be held accountable for their “bad decisions,” but their “bad decisions” Do Not Make Them Bad People. I tell her this because I want her to know that mistakes are fine. Learn from them and try to do better next time. You might fuck up 15 times. Or 150 times. …