Sonja the Grey

Category: Limiting Beliefs

  • Neptune energy, comin’ right up!

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    Neptune is comin’ in hot in the next few weeks!

    Okay not really, I’m pretty sure it’s very cold out that direction. But regardless of temperature, let’s take a look at what Neptune represents and what’s coming up.

    Neptune is the release of boundaries, and everything that means, both literal and metaphorical.

    This is the space where dreams evolve, where enthusiasm and creativity play, and where imagination rules.

    Your imagination, btw, may create the imaginary, but that is only one of it’s many functions. Imagination is also your access point not only to creativity and adaptation, but also into mystical realms. Here you can access your own energy, shaping it into the form that best suits you, if you so choose. You can walk in other worlds to see what they have to offer and teach.

    With strong Neptune energy, you can connect to your intuition. You can ask for signs that help bring you direction.

    Neptune energy is vast, and unboundered. … is that a word? It should be. … okay let’s see here … Oh! “Unbounded: having or appearing to have no limits.” Yes, okay. This is what I mean. 🤣 Neptune energy is limited only by what you believe is possible. Neptune leaves the restrictions, rules, and obligations to other energies, like Saturn.

    And when Neptune energy is out of balance, we get a wobbly planet. (j/k. Sort of.) .. .Okay, so I just looked up whether Neptune has a wobble, and apparently Neptune’s got two moons that have very similar orbits, but one is tilted in such a way as to never come too close to each other, and astronomers call it a “dance of avoidance.”

    Lemme tell ya, thank you, Neptune astronomers, for the tangent turned segue. Neptune energy out of balance is exactly a dance of avoidance. When this energy is out of whack, we see things like seeing things, confusion, longing, despair, victim mindsets, problematic spiritual connections.

    I believe this is why we see Neptune get such a bad rap so very often. Modern society often condemns connection to everything Neptune, unless it’s within a very strict set of rules. Spirituality is great! But often only within the confines of certain religions. Imagination is fantastic, so long as it’s being used constructively or only during particular scenarios.

    We’ve wrapped up Neptune energy in a bunch of rules … which is exactly where Neptune energy does not want to be. This can throw things off balance when Neptune energy comes into play in your life when you (or those around you) are not ready for it. Because Neptune energy isn’t ever about the one. It is not an energy of an individual nature. Because blurred boundaries, y’all! I am you, you are me, we are one type vibes here. So if the community rejects what’s coming in, it’s going to be more difficult for everybody.

    In the last few decades, Neptune energy has been opening up, becoming more accessible. Deeper access to guides, intuition, all the good stuff.

    Okay. So here’s what we’ve got coming up. In the next little while, we’ve got …

    • Mercury moving into Pisces on the 9th, which is ruled by Neptune, so bringing communication and mind energy to Neptune and Spirit connections
    • Sun conjunction Neptune on the 13th, bringing further intensification of Neptune energies for a few days there
    • And then, this is where it gets interesting … Neptune sextile the North Node (which also means trine the South Node) from March 15th through April 16th

    This, potentially, brings a huge amount of Spiritual help to your sense of direction, meaning, fulfillment over the next month – if you ask for it. If you are ready to walk through that door and ask for help. Because that’s one thing about Spirit work, at least in my experience … ya gotta ask, ya gotta be looking for those signs, and ya gotta be willing to believe, on some level, that they are signs at all.

    That’s it for today. If you would like help using these energies to your advantage, join me over in my Membership. I offer daily supportive tools, and real life interaction from me to help you transform your life. Membership helps support the work I do, and I do my best to support my members. Check it out at https://sonjathegrey.com/hello. Have a great day, and I will see you next time!

  • Would a Rose by Any Other Name …

    And on the current season, one of the cast member’s title is “Motivational Speaker.” Now this dude is anything but motivational. It’s quite a contrast, between his title and his actions. 

    Coincidentally (or, you know, not), I recently came across this quote: 

    “Were I to crown myself King, should I be King? Rather should I be an object of disgust or pity.” 
    [Austin Osman Spare]

    The words echo: “Were I to crown myself King.” How often do you choose the labels you want? Sometimes, often – pronouns come to mind. It’s your right to choose your pronoun, no one else’s. (If you wanna fight me on this, just unsubscribe now.) 

    Other times, you take on labels from others – employer’s job titles, for example. 

    Then there’s those tricky ones in between. 

    The ones you’re trained into as a kid. “Procrastinator,” “workaholic,” “too serious,” “too silly,” all labels you probably didn’t choose for yourself.

    Or the ones you know belong to you, but you struggle to say.  

    Maybe it’s something you want to be. Or know you’re growing into. Maybe it’s something you’ve always been, but have been afraid of what other people would think. (*cough* like “psychic.”)

    For me, putting “psychic” on my work profiles was hard. That’s why I put it there. It’s my edge boundary – if I can put “psychic” out there as a title, literally any other title I might reasonably consider will feel fine. And it took years of many people calling the work I do “psychic AF” for me to even consider it. 

    Because as the quote continues, “…should I be King? Rather should I be an object of disgust or pity.” You have to live up to your label, or suffer the wrath of those who see you wrongfully wearing it. Like, say, an insensitive Motivational Speaker. Just for example. 

    But you, because you’re here, are not likely the insensitive motivational speaker type. You’re far more likely struggling to wear the label that feels overwhelming, scary … and also amazing. And deep down, true. 

    What would it feel like to try on that label just for a little while?

    What part of you might it set free? 

  • Weekend Energy – August 29-30

    A question I keep wrestling with …

    Energy reports are all fine and good, but what the fuck good are they when the world is burning?

    Why do I care about where the moon is today when some [white] punk can kill people in a crowd and then go home?

    It’s something I keep coming back to, and I’m not going to jump into “love and light”.

    What I do know, is that I need to be in both places.

    I need to be pissed off and fighting for what’s right – which for me, means voting, educating myself, confronting racism when I encounter it, and working with people on understanding toxic positivity (which, by the way, if you don’t understand how positivity can be toxic, and are scared to ask anyone because people are jumping all over each other these days – I will lovingly discuss this with you in a welcoming, warm-hearted, non-accusational way).

    I also need to keep working on helping people find their way to whatever path it is they are looking for (or that is looking for them). Because the more of us out there finding our path, the more energy we all have to fight the bullshit. The stronger we feel on good days, the (hopefully) easier the bad days are.

    Because we’re still human. We need to feel strong and empowered while also sometimes weak and sometimes sad and sometimes angry.

    So, why the moon? It’s one of the ways I know how to help some of you. It’s how maybe, I can make a difference in your day, and maybe that difference makes a difference in somebody else’s day. Maybe it empowers you just enough to make a shift that matters. Maybe it helps you feel connected to other people just enough that you feel less alone next time you feel sad or frustrated at **waves hands around**. It’s how I gain strength to keep fighting for what’s right.

    And with that …

    Position of the Moon, August 29-30

    This weekend’s moon is like a giant breath, starting with the exhale. Today’s energy brings a squeeze as we move through Hexagrams 61, 60, and 41. This morning, in contemplating this writing and why I do it, I was solidly in the energy of 61, “Inner Truth.” I had to know why I was doing this, before I could do it.

    Inner truths can sometimes feel hard to hear, when there’s all this other noise of the “shoulds” and “supposed tos”. It’s often the quieter voice, gentler. Sometimes, too, it’s big and loud, when you know something happening is wrong. Either one can be your right time to act, and only you can know when that is.

    From there we roll on in to 60, Limitations. Limits are often thought to be a bad thing. However, from limits, we build energy. If we just inhaled, we wouldn’t release carbon dioxide, we wouldn’t move our energy. Limits create direction – limits give you a way to go, by showing you which ways not to go.

    The key here, is to find the limits that support your best way forward. And in the form of daily energy, this might be as simple as cutting back on how much you try to do in one day, how much you expect of yourself. Allow rest. Allow exploration. Allow less to be a good thing when you need it to be.

    As you discern which limits serve you, you may also find yourself releasing, bringing us to Hexagram 41, Diminishing; Decreasing. Letting go of the excess that isn’t needed or wanted.

    These decreasing energies can feel tough when you feel like they’re dragging you forward without your permission. If that’s happening, is there anything you can change about the situation you’re in that would help? Is it a tough but necessary conversation with a family member or coworker? Is it releasing yourself from an obligation that doesn’t suit you?

    Is there something you need to get back to for yourself, something you let go of along the way? Maybe it’s something simple, like getting back to the paper you started to read in the morning, but didn’t get to finish. Maybe, it’s something bigger.

    Tomorrow we move into Hexagram 19, “Approach.” It is the arrival of something new. Something strong, something significant. Context matters, of course. “Something significant” in this context doesn’t predict a lotto-winner in your future. More like, you may feel refreshed, inspired. Maybe a new possibility opens to you that wasn’t there before. Maybe it’s more subtle. Maybe not. Awareness of the potential, and willingness to move with it, is what can help here.

    Later on, we move into 13, “Harmony.” It is a cooperative, community hexagram. This may show up as a relief in relationships – aligned relationships may feel especially supportive tomorrow evening. Misaligned relationships may feel extra sticky. If so, might there be a way to find harmony together, or does that relationship need some space?

    Influences this weekend:
    Hexagrams:
    61 Connecting to Centre; Inner Truth
    60 Articulating; Limitations; Restricting
    41 Diminishing; Decreasing
    19 Nearing; Approach
    13 Harmony; Concording People
    Tarot:
    4 of Pentacles; 5 and 6 of Swords
    XV The Devil; Capricorn
    XXI The World; Saturn
    XVII The Star; Aquarius
    0 The Fool; Uranus

  • Messy Rules. They’re Awesome.

    On my way in to the library the other day, I wondered what their food rules are, and whether I needed to smuggle in my water bottle. So I went looking for a sign with rules.

    Rules on a window[At the local library, you can’t throw your stuff everywhere, get naked, or pop popcorn. This must be why children under 10 need to be supervised.]

    And there it was: “Do not: Consume food or drink that creates a nuisance.”

    Now this might seem like no big deal, sandwiched between typical “don’t smoke” and “don’t expose yourself” rules. But it caught me dead in my tracks.

    Why?

    This rule is entirely subjective.

    And I love it.

    Most of the time, people will try to create rules that cover all the bases. The goal is to avoid foods that create a nuisance. So, they try to define what that means, because then there is no confusion. No problems. So … liquids only in a closed container. But what kind of container? And what if they spill on the books? Let’s just say no fluids. For food, only foods that can’t make a mess. What does that mean? We don’t know – let’s just say no food at all, that’ll be easier. And then people (like me) are smuggling in their water bottles and their little bag of quiet Doritos (ah, that’s what those are for).

    Instead, this library understands what people do in libraries. Library visitors often stay for hours, and will likely want to eat or drink while they’re here. This rule understands that, and simply explains what concern must be met – don’t create a nuisance. It leaves it to the people involved to figure out what behavior is causing a problem and what isn’t.

    If that’s not awesome enough, this rule also trusts the employees. It gives them the leeway to declare that a persons eating behavior is causing a problem … or not. It allows for situational discretion. Maybe one day, someone’s loud chips in the middle of the quietest part of the room is driving people nuts. Maybe on another day, there’s no one around except a mom and kids in the children’s room and they brought chips for a snack. In one situation, the noise must be addressed. In another, it doesn’t.

    It’s messy. It could be a bit harder (“I was in here the other day and the kids were eating chips!!”). But it’s also thoughtful, honest, trusting, and wise.

    We could use more wise rules.

    Sonja

    Do you have any rules you live by that are too strict? Rules that grew out of a fundamental value, but the rule doesn’t suit you anymore? If you think of one (or three) comment about it below, I’d love to hear from you.

  • Letting Go

    I’m sitting oceanside at the Oregon coast this morning, wondering about how if some global catastrophe (natural or otherwise) struck, and humankind was largely wiped out, how long it’d take the earth to come back into balance (my guess is, not very long in the grand scheme of things).

    You know, light vacation ponderings.

    But it also highlights to me how much of our work we create for ourselves. If we found ourselves knocked back to a time where survival was the primary goal, how many things would we stop giving energy to every day? I’d imagine it’d be most of the things we care about right now.

    I’m not advocating for a global cataclysmic event. And with society intact, there are some things we still need to give energy to (like paying the mortgage). But what in your life drains your energy that doesn’t need to?

    What could you let go of, right now, today?

    oceanPhoto by Dale Nibbe on Unsplash